Convincing an aging loved one that he or she should consider some type of in home care is not always easy. There are plenty of assumptions and misconceptions about it, especially for those who spend any amount of time perusing news stories. Every once in a while there’s a story about a home care aide taking advantage of or abusing a senior. That can often make it seem impossible to convince a loved one home care is a great option to at least consider.
In some families, the problems are profound. Adult children struggle to provide some care and support for their aging parents, and yet those parents won’t even consider professional support. This often leads to one of two possibilities: leaving the senior alone and hoping that he/she is safe or taking them to court to force care upon them.
Neither situation is a good one. Now mediation services are becoming more popular for some. Like mediators in business, sports organizations, or even among neighbors, these elder care mediators may help families resolve disputes or misunderstandings to find the best solution for those in need.
The Journal Gazette published an Op-Ed piece written by Michael Rosswurm, Resolving eldercare issues, that stated:
“Examples of issues that can be brought to mediation when caring for elders are mobility and driving privileges, health care decisions, re-fitting a house so older parents can remain in their home, power of attorney for finances, health care representative, guardianship, sibling conflicts, etc.
When elderly people encounter changes that bring stress and challenges to their lives and those of family members, mediation provides an opportunity for all concerned to participate in a safe, respectful and moderated conversation where differences can be discussed, information gathered and agreements reached.”
Stress is commonly associated with caring for aging or disabled loved ones. The family caregiver -whether they provide part-time or full-time support- often gives up a lot in their life for the benefit of that aging loved one. That stress can impact relationships, and it can make some believe they know what’s best, or that they have no other options.
Mediation can help families work through disputes and differences of opinion while avoiding strife and ill-thought out words. The emotional harm that can be caused by anger and vitriol can last for years. When it comes to caring for aging loved ones, years might not be enough to repair the damage. Mediation could help in some situations.
It may even help convince some seniors that in-home care isn’t a curse but rather a blessing.